NEWS

In the platform tennis world of doubles, from league matches to tournament play, partners take on animal-like qualities. Some are happy birds who flit from partner to partner with ease, finding satisfaction regardless of who their partner is. Some scavenge their entire life searching for the "perfect" partner. Long-term pairs are revered—two old, wizened elephants, mates for life, taking great care of each other.

Hoping to find your pachyderm? Here are a few ways to make the transition seamless for both parties.

1 >Be clear in your mind about why you want to “break up.” Are you looking for a higher level of competition? Have you found someone who has a compatible style of play —she likes to blitz as much as you do? Is paddle taking second place to other things in your life but your partner is more gung-ho? Is your partner-to-be more to your liking in the hut? Once you have pinpointed why you prefer a new model, it will be an easier conversation to have with your current partner.

2 >Think long and hard about what impact the change will have on your off-court relationship. Pro Heather Prop commented, “Breaking up with a long-term partner is much like a breakup with a boyfriend or girlfriend—it’s not easy! Not only are you breaking off your on-court partnership, but also the time off the court, like traveling or eating together. That relationship changes so much when you are no longer playing together. If you are truly friends on and off the court, even if the breakup was not mutual, after some time, the friendship will prevail. It might not be as strong a bond, but you can still enjoy each other and get along as you go your separate ways on the court.”

3>When your decision is final (and you and your new partner have quietly discussed it) have the conversation with your soon‑to‑be ex as soon as possible. In private. Get ahead of the grapevine. This must be a face-to-face discussion (no texting!), preferably over a vodka tonic and mozzarella sticks. Keep the news short and sweet and positive. Next, sit back and listen. Let the conversation come to a natural end. Toast a great partnership and look ahead to your next pairing. Allow your old partner time to figure out what is next. If asked for advice about a new teammate, it’s probably best not to offer up names. Let the dust settle.

If you were gracious during your breakup, hopefully you and your old partner will be the “exes” whose relationship everyone admires. Perhaps you and your new partner will be the elephants (in a good way) that others revere.